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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. To clarify I do not think my spouse is stupid. In fact, he is quite smart, and smarter than me in multiple areas. It's just when it comes to debating his skills are very weak. My spouse has suggested we just not talk about certain topics. I could do that but it would make me feel like he's missing out on a large part of who I am. He also is a bit jealous, and would be bothered by me reaching out to others for stimulation. So I'm caught  between a rock and a hard place.[/quote]

Some people find debating with their spouse to be tiring/exhausting... not fun.  Even if the topic isn't personal.  Much like debating politics or religion with someone who just agrees to disagree with you.  It's fine that you enjoy such dialog but its not a fault of your husband that needs to be fixed.  And you might also be someone who lacks self-awareness about how much others find it to be a turn off.   For example, talking about him missing out on how smart and intellectual you are  :? ... also, men don't always argue/debate as well as woman but it doesn't make them less intelligent.  Whenever we argue my DH has to stop and think through his argument for hours before he can articulate it well.  And he has a PhD in statistics. [/quote]

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