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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd like to dispose of, [b]without consent,[/b] a gaming device my minor son bought with his own money and brought into our house which I own. I think this is OK as he has no property rights, correct?  [/quote]

NO!  [b]Your child bought something with his own money [/b]and you want to get rid of it?   Your logic is very faulty.    Of course, your child has property rights!  Just because you own the house doesn't mean they can't own something.   Think back when you were a kid...what if your mom/dad did this to you?  How would you respond?

My question to you is  do you want to have a good relationship with your child?  How would your child trust you again if you did this?  If you are upset that they are using it too much you can put limits on the use but, it is wrong to throw it away.     You might be throwing away more than the device if you do so![/quote]

Ah...but what is "his own money" really? Did he first take that money he earned and use it to pay for gas that is required to drive him places?...his car? insurance?...what about fees that are required for him to play the sport he loves?...school supplies?...that 'must-have' pair of sneakers for school?
There are a lot of things beyond basic food/clothing/shelter that this kid's parents provide that are not required. And if he were suddenly required to pay for them himself, he wouldn't have much of "his own money" left to buy things his parents don't approve of. So I say OP has a right to say "nope...you're not spending your money on that."
When he's out of the house on his own and is totally self-sufficient, he can spend "his own money" however he wants! Until then, OP absolutely has control over this.

That said, I agree with the second paragraph from PP above in that there are better ways to approach this than to summarily toss the device in the trash. Preserving the relationship should be key. But so should correcting the sense of entitlement that so many minors have about what is "their own money" without any regard for why they even have the luxury of spending that money on anything other than essentials for living in the first place. [/quote]

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