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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what was the rest of the visit like? Your son was clearly rude as he left, but tell us about the rest of the week.

Maybe she was involved but unpleasant.

Maybe she was wonderful.

Your dad clearly doesn't remember much about 11 year olds, so I hope you can find a way to keep this from escalating.[/quote]

[b]DS says it was a good visit and my dad's wife is a nice lady[/b]. He just doesn't seem to care for her as she isn't my mom. I told him that is unacceptable and he just goes "Yeah ok mom". My husband jokes that maybe my dad and his wife were "just too Asian" for DS but I don't find it funny. I think DS knows he can get the support of his dad and downplay bad behavior.

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Is this visit the first time your DS has spent time with your dad's wife?  How well do they know one another?  
Sounds like maybe DS wasn't prepared for the expectations of his grandfather and step-grandmother.  Also sounds like maybe they are forging a new relationship and that can be difficult when the child is there alone w/o parents to help.  I would likely have DS write a thank you note to both your dad and his wife thanking them for having him, and maybe suggesting something he'd like to do with them in the future.  Move forward and don't dwell on the past.  While you can apologize, I don't know that I'd force your son to, not sure it would help move the relationship forward.  I'd also try to spend time with your son and your dad together to help build the relationship.[/quote]

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