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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH comes from a family of drinkers. However, I don't really drink much at all and have no clue what is normal or not.

DH has always been what I would consider a big drinker - I guess maybe it's not the volume but the fact that he has at least two drinks every single day. During the week, its usually a bourbon when he gets home from work and a glass or two of wine with dinner (he loves wine and collects it). On weekends, especially if we go out to dinner with friends, he probably has 2-3 bourbons and 3-4 glasses of wine. He never really seems drunk, he mostly just falls asleep on the couch when we get home.

My concern is that DH's brother is an alcoholic and just went into rehab. He was high functioning for a long time, until one day he wasn't, and sometimes I wonder that DH could have the same fate if he isn't careful. DH and his parents seemed really surprised but I wasn't - DH's brother can literally drink a whole bottle of whiskey in one night, and did fairly often.

I've tried to talk to DH about this but he really thinks I am crazy and that he absolutely does not have a problem. While I don't think he has one now per se, I worry he could one day because clearly it's in his genetics. His mom drinks like a bottle of wine every night so I would say that she too overdoes it a bit.

What do others this? Is this a reasonable amount to drink?[/quote]

If he can go without alcohol for a day w/ no symptoms, he is not physically dependent. This should make it easier to break the reliance/mental addiction. There are different reasons that drinking too much is bad for you and your husband is clearly drinking too much even if he isn't an addict. (I was definitely inclined to drink too much for enjoyment/lifestyle reasons in my 20s, but I'm also definitely not an addict (e.g., I had no problem not drinking for ~9 months at a time when I was pregnant). That still doesn't mean it was good for me to binge a night or two a week.) One way of approaching this might be from a health perspective if he's touchy on the addiction angle. Maybe suggest a night or two of no drinking a week? A good way to bring down overall consumption and ensure there's no physical addiction while not putting yourself in a monitoring/nagging/judgmental role when he is drinking/you do go out.)[/quote]

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