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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Retention is always a bad idea.[/quote]

For a typically developing child who is slow to read, I agree, just holding back and hoping things work out doesn't usually - there needs to be interventions in place, and often the act of holding back hurts a child's self esteem or sense of self more than it helps with the reading.

BUT....

Perhaps for a child like OP's, whose brain develops much slower and will always do, this isn't a bad idea.  OP, is she behind socially?  If her brain grows more slowly, does that impact more than reading and math and impacts her social skills? IF that's true, then you might very well want to hold her back so she could be with kids she is more developmentally like.

I don't know, I think I'd speak with the school and figure out what will happen if she is held back - she'll still get the same level of intervention and help, right?  Because holding her back isn't going to magically make her read better!

Also, does she have friends in her current class?  Is she "one of the group", part of the class, and have lots of friends? If that's true, then I think you really need to ask her what she wants. But if she really doesn't have friends, isn't part of the gang, then why not? Because she is developmentally 2 years younger and the kids can tell? Then holding her back would help to solve that, from a social point of view.

The thing is with children with special needs, especially those with intellectual challenges:  as a child develops along his/her trajectory, they still keep getting farther apart from their age mates becuase those age mates are also developing along a much faster trajectory.  So what's "slightly off" at 4 years old becomes much more noticeable as they get older.   Can you imagine if she's in a group of 7th graders acting like a 4th grader?  That won't work for her, and it might even be dangerous as they are thinking so much farther ahead than she can - and I'd worry they could take advantage of her.

I guess you have some more thinking to do.  [/quote]

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