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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op.  Yes, I have a great relationship with my sister.  She can be insensitive but mostly also vents about our parents.

I spoke with DH about getting some more space (not cutting off but not inviting to vacations and family events anymore and putting myself out there).  He's very against it and makes good points -- family is family, they are our kids' grandparents, and he's brushing them off so I shouldn't be hypertensive.  He also pointed out that it's been like this for years, which is true. I wish he was more supportive of my feelings but I also think my feelings cannot trump his feelings.  If he's fine with it, then I'm being silly.  I just wish it didn't hurt. I feel ridiculous.[/quote]

You are not being silly or hypersensitive.  It is perfectly reasonable to feel hurt with this kind of treatment from family, especially parents. It IS very hurtful.  Feeling ridiculous also seems reasonable since you know something is wrong and aren't being allowed / allowing yourself to feel hurt.

Creating distance doesn't have to be some big decision you both agree on with a plan you initiate at this very moment.  It be can very gradual and more about the emotions than actual physical distance.  About managing expectations and protecting yourself from their hurtful manipulations.

I strongly agree with previous posts about talking to a therapist at least once to ensure you know you are not being silly, hypersensitive or ridiculous - your parents just sound like assholes who don't know how to show you love in a healthy way.[/quote]

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