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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The way OP uses the word “command” such as “goes to command” is a strange syntax. He did once say “my command,” which is normal. But he repeatedly uses the term in a non standard syntax. He also said -“I’m military,” instead of “I’’m in the military” or “I’m in the Army (or Air Force” or whatever strikes me as he may be a troll. [/quote]

Ummm...don't know any military people, do you?

I'm Navy. We're army. He's active duty.

That is the standard way of saying things when you're military.[/quote]

Agree except most people a year from either getting out or retiring aren't worried what command has to say.  My husband had an ex like that and she called command and they blew her off as it was clear she was lying about money (easily prove he paid the support) and other stuff.  You let them call.  It is one way people go after a military spouse (ex) but you take the power away by saying go ahead and just let command know what's going on.  They might get after you if you didn't pay child support or get an id, but he's done that.  Also, what is odd is kids under 10 (is it 10, I forget, as my children do not have ID's yet) except in divorce/deployment/living with someone else.  Some divorce only get it when the active duty parent cannot take them on base for appointments.  OP should have signed the paperwork and let Mom take kids for ID's so it was on her (as long as the kids ID's were valid its not an issue and she can use them to get on base).  OP should have handed them to the oldest child if he got them to give to mom in an envelope or just mail.

You take away her power.  You buy the clothing directly as well as school supplies.  You pay all school activity fees, pictures, etc. directly to the school or company if it is not specifically ordered to pay mom for the extra's.  Keep documentation.  Usually those kids don't need it, Mom doesn't want stuff from Dad so she can say he does nothing, or Mom never intended to put them in activities and just looking for a money grab.  Or, order clothing online and have the receipt.  Children's Place has good clearance sales.  Buy a few sizes and keep bigger stuff at your house or just send it all (well, keep clothing at your house too) so she has them when she needs them.  She's looking for conflict.  You be as nice as nice can be.  Kids need clothing.  Take them or order online.  Same for shoes.  School supplies - give her a huge box of everything on the list including suggested donations.  Activities - give her a check to the activity company name or mail it/pay online.  No need to give her money directly if she says kids need stuff.

They will never hold her accountable for how she spends the child support.  Get over it now she can take all the money, spend nothing on the kids and keep it for herself.[/quote]

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