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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]With an adult, I would ask them what pronoun they prefer.  That's a perfectly appropriate question-[/b]-you should call people what they like to be called, so if you're not sure, ask them what they would like to be called.

If your son was better friends with this kid, then it would probably be okay to ask the kid about his/her gender presentation.  But since he doesn't know this kid well, asking "Are you a boy or a girl" is a bit rude.  [/quote]

Please, please do not do this. For an adult, for a child, for anyone. This question is extremely offensive. If you don't know what pronoun to use, don't use one. Period. [/quote]

I can't see how this is the correct answer.  The most current thinking is that using the correct name and pronoun for a person reduces the risk of suicide.  How does one make sure that one is using the correct name and pronoun?  By asking, and then by doing.  Not by avoiding the issue entirely.  [/quote]

NP here. One take I have on this is that it's a balance of entitlement to information to benefit your own curiosity vs becoming close enough to the person that you want to make them as welcomed as possible and refer to them in their preferred mode.

Hard for kids to figure out especially, but helping them see this distinction has potential beneficial applications outside of this specific scenario too. [/quote]

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