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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FWIW nearly every 50+ woman I know (single, divorced, happily married) says she would definitely not marry again.[/quote]

Men are too much work.  [/quote]

Love my DH, but definitely wouldn't remarry.  I'm 35 with a toddler.[/quote]

+1. Same here except 45 with teenagers.

I agree wth the girlfriend about the finances.  Not sure who has the late teens but I thought it’s possible FAFSA will include step parent income.  Also, in general, not getting married allows you to financially support your kids as you see fit.  If you want to give your kids a downpayment for a house, not an issue.  If she wants to use some of the money left by deceased husband for her child’s college, house, wedding, grad school, not an issue.  If you want to leave all your money to your kids in your will, not an issue.  Same for her.  Once you get married, it gets a lot more complicated.  My dad remarried shortly after divorcing my mom.  He purchased a house with his proceeds from my parents house.  He was married for a few years and I think ended up divorcing the second wife.  She was entitled to half the value of the house they purchased while married.  I don’t know if she passed away after the divorce or during but somehow her daughter with 4 kids ended up getting her proceeds from the house.  I also remember during their brief marriage it was an issue that she wanted the daughter to move in and I think may have been financially helping that daughter.

So anyway, I do think it is about her not needing to depend on you, your kids, her kids to be able to retire, as well as making sure her kids are protected financially (especially since her deceased husband made sure they were taken care of financially) and that your kids don’t have money as a possible wedge with their growing relationship with her.[/quote]

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