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[quote=Anonymous]I had my first at 34, waited about 18 months to start trying again and it never happened. Many miscarriages, so then we tried IVF with PGS and four transfers failed to result in a pregnancy. I was devastated - wanting another child and then trying so hard and failing was emotionally exhausting. I so regretted waiting, maybe I didn't try hard enough, would another doctor have been more successful. I'm 43, close to 44 now and these feelings really started to fade over the past couple years - at 41 I was still thinking it would be possible, maybe I should try again, but the older my child got and the older I got I knew that realistically, even if I were given the opportunity for guaranteed success, I'd need to stop and consider if I would do it. And now I know I wouldn't - I love my life and my family as it is now. I still get a twinge when I hear about someone having their second, third, or even fourth baby but I'm able to be happy for them after a second without it being a sad event for me.

I wouldn't go back and start sooner, because I love my son more than anything. I wouldn't change a thing right now - but that's an impossible place to be in when you're still in it. I'm optimistic for you - that you'll find peace with the choices you made with the information you had at the time, that you'll realize that you wouldn't change a thing about your family, that you'll be able to put the whole mess that infertility creates, both physically and mentally behind you. [/quote]

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