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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be pretty pissed if my DH reacted to spilled water the way you did. You should both take a parenting class. [/quote]

Really? You think asking a child why they aren’t doing anything to clean up a mess they made us out of line?  You and OP’s DH both sound like great parents. [/quote]

Yea, it's passive-aggressive. I have family who pull this, and it's not that they are legitimately curious why, it's that they feel slighted in some way and lash out. These people always get pissed when you take the question at face value and actually answer it, rather than jumping to attention and doing whatever it is they want.

Better response: "hey sweetie, there are books on the table, could you please wipe up the water now before they get ruined?". If kid doesn't and the books get ruined, kid pays for new books with allowance money. Natural consequences work better than snapping. [/quote]
 
It's not reasonable to expect someone to respond so sweetly and with so many words in this situation, especially once the water started reaching the books.

My son (np) spills his drinks a lot due to not paying attention. The natural consequence is that he has to clean it up. If he doesn't move to get a towel, I respond with urgency (without snapping). "Uh oh. Go get a towel, quick." Or "You know what to do. Clean it up."

Op, your response of "This is between me and DS" was the most unusual part of this situation. [/quote]

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