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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mainly just want to know what her deal is, what's her problem. 
I've approached the behavior a number of different ways, and nothing really has had any effect on changing her attitude, in fact I think it's worse. She has the mentality of a spoiled brat 13 y/o. [b]As a kid gets older you expect them to mature, not regress, and she's becoming more and more immature[/b].

Has anyone ever dealt with this specifically?[/quote]

Teenager behavior doesn’t progress in a linear fashion. Mine is only at the beginning of the curve. But when I did RN training, one of my rotations was at an alternative HS - basically kids who had failed classes or couldn’t fit into a normal public HS setting for one reason or another. The principal said it was really common for the oldest ones to do well in classes until the last minute, and then bomb their exams as a way to stay in the system for a little longer and avoid the pressures of being a fully-fledged adult. Those were kids whose social supports outside of school were pretty lean, so the behavior was magnified, but many teens go through conflicting feelings like this. I think even back to my own adolescent years and can remember rare bursts of ‘babyish’ behavior despite being a really mature-for-my-age teen.

[b]Response-wise, I’d recommend a variable approach. Be open to discussion about pressure and stress. Let the unimportant stuff slide - save your breath for when it counts. But hold firm on important things, and have a calm convo about stepping up to do unwanted stuff anyway. Your DD will get there![/b][/quote]

OP here. This is good advice, PP, thank you.

As it turns out, it is a medical/mental health issue (in addition to regular teenager-itis) which we are now in the process of treating.

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