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[quote=Anonymous]I was 11, sister was 13. My Dad left and married his editor, whose 2 yo son I babysat for. So he became our stepbrother. We had an incredibly happy childhood up until then so we were blindsided. I think my parents had typical marriage issues but my dad having an affair/walking out also stunned my mom.

She spent the next 5 years trying to get her life together. I dropped every activity I'd done since age 5 (ballet, piano, soccer) and I think no one noticed/there was no one to take me. Sister drifted into her group of friends and distanced herself from the family. I spent my teens terrified my mom would go under the waves and being angry at my Dad/new stepmom.

Before I went to college, my mom met my stepdad. They are still happily married. The AP/Editor my dad married died of breast cancer at 42. Her son became suicidal and my Dad essentially saved his life. Kid's own dad was so estranged from him at that point that he didn't know how to help (my stepmom destroyed their relationship). My Dad is now remarried to a 3rd wife; a lady who is something of a ballbuster but who I respect. She also is an athlete who keeps him healthy so I'm glad for that. Both remarriages are stable and will go the distance.

As for the kids: My sister is a tenured professor, I am a physician, one step-brother is starting a phD program in physics, one just graduated from Cornell.

None of us are married. I decided to have a child on my own and am a happy single parent. My child is the only grandchild in the family.

Hard to say where it could've been better and what was going to happen anyway. I love my stepdad so he's been a hugely positive addition to the family. I like/love my current stepmom and feel she's good for my Dad. I do wish my Dad hadn't found the AP/wife #2 as she was truly horrible and together they were morally bankrupt. Things greatly improved when she died. I love and respect my Dad but it taught me that even ethical men make hugely damaging choices, so that's a disappointing lesson.

I'd still like to get married. I'd like to show my DD a good, healthy example of what a man can be. So far my stepdad is doing a pretty good job.

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