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[quote=Anonymous]When I participated in a group years ago, we weren’t even supposed to chat in the waiting room; all interaction was supposed to take place in the group. These ground rules were established so that we would maintain appropriate boundaries, as it was supposed to be a safe space for us to work out the interpersonal issues we struggled with out in the world.

You’re in the group to learn how to maintain appropriate, healthy boundaries and communicate in a healthy way.

Blurring things with a married man who clearly has boundary issues if his own, and who is struggling to respect his wife’s boundaries within their marriage, is a red flag that reflects that you very much need to keep digging into your therapy. 
It’s a good sign that you’re questioning it; the group is a microcosm if the larger world s f these are the kinds of complex issues you will learn to manage in social, romantic, work and family relationships.

I’m hoping the therapist did a pro and con list with you in order to facilitate your ability to process and problem solve this independently, and not because they actually think meeting up with this guy in your group is a viable choice;You’re in therapy to learn to deal with issues like these (which come up all the time in daily life), in a healthy way.

Honestly, what good can come of hanging out with a married guy in your therapy group whom you’re sexually attracted to. Can’t you see where this is heading? When it crashes and burns, you might look back and wonder how you got yourself into this situation, and learning how to identify and break breaking such unhealthy patterns is the whole purpose of group in the first place.[/quote]

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