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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids will always have a place in my home if they need it.[/quote]

DC has a serious health issue, sure.

Unemployed? Apply for unemployment, food stamps, and Medicaid. Greatly scale down your life style. Stop buying alcohol. Eat PBJ and ramen. Hell, the Sikh temple serves a free vegetarian meal to all comers every day. Walk or take public transportation. Cancel your streaming services and use the public library for entertainment. Shop at the thrift store when something breaks or wears out. Sell that new cell phone and gaming system. Get a roommate. Work the gig economy through Uber, Task Rabbit, and Instacart.

My DC did this after leaving a $40k job with benefits a year out of college. We supplemented when truly necessary (a computer repair or travel to interview in another city) Within 6 mos, a new and better position. [/quote]

You sound like my mother. I was a responsible, hard-working, good kid, and she always thought I had it too easy. I excelled in school, killed myself to do well so as not to disappoint her, and never have her any trouble with teenage rebellion. Yet she’d say stuff like you wrote above too. Fast forward 20+ years and I really resent her for it. I’ve got a good life with kids and she’s not really in it in large part because of this attitude she had. I will not do the same to my kids.  A parent’s job is not to make their kid’s life hard when the kid is otherwise responsible, like OP’s kid seems to be. It’s one thing if the kid is like the guy the parents up in Massachusetts had to take to court. That’s not this situation. OP - the transition can be hard. Let your kid come home and give him some space to find his footing. DC is a great place to be a young professional. There are tons of social groups and networking things from sports on the mall to young professionals meet ups. If in a year, he’s in the basement playing video games 24/7, then have a talk. Until then, don’t invent problems where there aren’t any. Don’t be like my mother.[/quote]

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