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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're not in control of the other kid and you're not responsible for teaching the other kid.

In that scenario, I talk to MY kid. "Do you like it when Larlo says that to you?" "No." "Well, you can tell Larlo 'I don't like it when you say/do X. Let's say/do Y instead.' Practice it with me." [we'd practice until he felt confident]. Then I'd send him to go do it.

If Larlo were still being a little jerk, we'd leave.

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I would say, "I think that hurts Larlo's feelings," instead of, "That was a mean thing to say."  [/quote]

OP here.  That's a good suggestion, thank you.  I will keep this in mind if the kid says something rude to me too (which he has done many times).

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The most important thing here is that it's a golden opportunity to coach your kid on how to stand up to bullies, instead of putting him further into the victim role by "standing up for him". Don't miss the moment, because you're not going to be around when it happens at 6, 7 and 8. You don't need to say "it hurts Larlo's feelings"--he can say it for himself! Or you can say: "I don't like it when you say that to me," for yourself.

(It doesn't mean you have to pick hanging out with this kid over and over to get these opportunities, however.) 
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