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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]no one likes a perpetual victim...my guess is it's exhausting being around you, OP. [/quote]

+1 but by your own admission only one has cut you off, still time to repair the damage with the others.

It sounds, OP, that you feel like because you had a certain set of struggles, that your sisters, who did not have those struggles, certainly led charmed lives and had nothing to complain about.

They are adults now so likely have had many struggles crop up along the way. Almost certainly not the same as your struggles but struggles nontheless. A relationship means both sides show empathy for the other. By your own admission you have received a lot of empathy and special attention for your struggles. Have you given your family the same in return when they have had problems? It sounds like you have not. That is not a good way to keep a relationship with anyone. [/quote]

Op here. I am working hard to not make the mistakes I made with the one sister who is now estranged from me.

I am trying my best to be there for the other sisters [b]and not give them an excuse to leave me too[/b].[/quote]

Therapy, OP. You have GOT to stop framing things like you are a victim.

You have a lot to learn about empathy for people even if you consider them perfect. You are really, really having trouble putting yourself in their shoes, and you are still seeing your relationship with your sisters as how it all affects you (ie, them leaving you), instead of focusing on giving and empathizing. [/quote]

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