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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks. I knew it was a loaded question to ask here. I swear I am not racist. I am super nosy though - equally about all new people I meet. I immediately see if they have a FB page, search their address on whitepages.com, etc.

That said, message received. I’ll leave it be.[/quote]

It's not necessary to treat her any differently (hey fellow nosy lady!).  Just ask if she grew up here/where did she grow up.  THIS IS A NORMAL QUESTION, especially somewhere like the DC area where there are a lot of transplants.  If she says Wisconsin, it's fine to ask about how cold it was (or whatever).  People ask me where I grew up all of the time.  [/quote]

This.  The offense isn't asking, "Where are you from?"  It's when they say, "I'm from California," and you say, "But where are you REALLY from?"

Asking someone where they are from is fine.  Hell, if someone has a noticeable accent, I think it's fine to ask about that.  It's rude to treat non-white Americans as though they are REALLY from somewhere else, but it's not rude to ask people where they are from.

That said, stop stalking people you just met online.  Creepy.   
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