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[quote=Anonymous]51yo woman here who did quite a bit of online dating in recent years (now off, in a relationship).

1. Pictures are the first and most important impression. You would not believe the number of guy profiles with incredibly bad pictures. Make sure someone, preferably a woman whose taste seems compatible with yours, helps you select your pictures. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, put a few pictures on photofeeler and consider the feedback. You should be well-groomed and attractively dressed and smiling in at least one of them (but not necessarily all of them). Pictures that a lot of guys seem to like to post but don't do anything for most women: pics with wildlife, fishing, wearing your team's shirt/hat, bathroom or car selfies, shirtless, posing with attractive women, ratty t-shirts with baggy shorts

2. Women being turned off by men with "younger only" age ranges is a thing. Raise your upper age to 55 even if that seems high to you. It'll look better.

3. The written portion of your profile should have good grammar, correct spelling, no emojis. It's fine to show a sense of humor, but more important to come across as tasteful and intelligent. Provide some details about yourself that show your individuality and will give fodder for conversation. Here are some good tips: https://www.zoosk.com/date-mix/online-dating-advice/online-dating-profile-tips/online-dating-profile-examples-for-men/

4. Send a lot of messages, even to women you're not sure about. It's a numbers game.

5. The first message should be tailored to the recipient and show that you read her profile. Allude to something in her profile (other than her looks!), comment on some common ground/interest you have, and end with a question that invites response. No "hi, love your profile" or dead-end comments. You need to lead a conversation. Offer some information about yourself that shows you're real and sane and harmless.

6. If you get a positive response, propose a date fairly quickly. No texting back and forth for days.

7. Propose interesting, active dates - a visit to a museum, a city walk (not a trail hike; that would raise safety concerns for most women), an activity or performance.

8. Be a good, polite texter.

9. Read Modern Romance by Asis Anzari for a good examination of current dating behaviors and good tips on how to do it better.[/quote]

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