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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That’s what I said to my now husband when we were first dating. That said, it did not go over well.

I had just gotten out of a relationship so I didn’t want to rush into another so quickly. I liked him, but I also wanted a chance to just really get to know him better before introducing all the complications of officially “dating”. The anxiety over labels, exclusivity, uncertainty, jealousy, expectations, moving too fast because you hate that uncertainty, etc.  I wanted to really know him as a person, not as some title or role he would play in my life.

But as I said, it did not go over well. He thought I was a bitch playing games and said so much, and then lashed out.[/quote]

Also the expectation of sex. I wanted to take things slowly in that area, especially because I saw potential for something long term with him, and I didn’t want to make the mistake of rushing that part again.  I guess I wanted the innocence of friendship first- when it is about genuinely liking someone, without expectations of what they would give you. To just like being with them and getting to know them. And then for the physical intimacy to happen afterward. Because honestly, sex is always kind of a selfish act, no? Even at its best.[/quote]

For women yes[/quote]

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