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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]There have never been any societal or professional consequences or opprobrium for dumping an older wife for a younger model. All societal and professional points in such a marriage are attached to the husband so they do not convey.[/quote]

The consequence for dumping a wife (or getting dumped) is alimony. And the second sentence is total lunacy.[/quote]

Alimony doesn't hurt professional or social standing.

What part of the second sentence do you not understand? If the husband is a high earner at the top of his profession, he will be in demand socially and professionally.  If he leaves his wife and marries someone else, he won't suffer socially or professionally because his professional and social status comes from him, not his wife.  Wife #1 won't take those with her when she leaves.  That's what "do not convey"means.  These things stay with the husband. They don't go with the wife. [/quote]

[b]You seem to suggest that someone should suffer professionally, be shunned even, because he divorces.[/b] Giving a crap about some other couple’s private affairs is nuts. A doctor doesn’t become less proficient as a result of divorcing; we tend to want a good doctor, not a virtuous one.[/quote]

It used to happen that was often the case.  Read this [i]NYT[/i] article as it pertains to William Agee, once one of America's "rock star CEOs" at "Bendix, one of the country's largest auto part makers".  He took up with his much younger, fresh out of Harvard Business School, executive "protégée" Mary Cunningham.  William Agee eventually left Bendix and married Mary Cunningham, but his career was never quite the same again  (RCA "shunned" his offer to buy a stake in the company, "saying the chief executive hadn’t 'demonstrated the ability to manage his own affairs, let alone someone else’s.'”).  Interestingly, at the end of his life, only weeks away from his death, Mr. Cunningham traveled back "to Seattle to reconnect [and reconcile] with his children and grandchildren with his first wife [Dine Weaver]" and remained there until his death.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/10/business/before-metoo-there-was-mary-cunningham.html[/quote]

And here is a more recent [i]WSJ[/i] story about how a disclosed "romantic relationship" between two "separated" executives at different companies resulted in the woman being "terminated" by her employer, but the man simply remaining in place.  I recognize that this is a slightly different situation as the scrutiny came from the possible appearance of a conflict of interest resulting from the "romantic relationship", and not because of the relationship [i]per se[/i].  It is nevertheless interesting to note that the conservative, staid [i]WSJ[/i] made a point of including the following fact in the article, which was not relevant to the conflict-of-interest accusation since it pertained not to the time ([i]i.e[/i]., 2015-16) or corporate employers at issue, but rather to a place of employment where both parties had previously overlapped working together in the distant past ([i]i.e.[/i], 2006-08):

[i]"Mr. M[], 57 years old, and Ms. R[], 45, who are still in a relationship, worked together previously at [BofA], where Mr. M[] was general counsel between January 2004 and December 2008. Ms. R[] was an associate general counsel at the bank from June 2006 to June 2011."[/i]

https://www.wsj.com/articles/romantic-relationship-with-fannie-mae-ceo-prompted-firing-of-fifth-third-lawyer-1470871838 [/quote]

Both articles are interesting reads on professional issues and consequences related to romantic relationships.[/quote]

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