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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could OP clarify what it means to be a selfish, shitty teammate? Because some of the responses on here seem to say that it means not being good enough or being easily distracted. Are we mad at these kids/parents because what they're doing is bad for the kid, or because the kid is making them lose the game?[/quote]

I think I answered this at 10:05, but in case it's not clear I'll respond directly. First, I want to make clear I'm not mad at any of the kids in this. I welcome any kid who is willing to try, no matter how well they play or how many games we lose. I welcome the kid who wants to be there but is easily distracted, because that's fairly easy to address by a coach redirecting them. I'm not even mad at the kid who has said explicitly they don't want to be there but their parents are forcing them anyway, because they've had no say in it.

As for the parents, I'm not mad at the parents who force a kid to play but at least will get involved when their U9 kid is directly interfering with a practice drill or sits down on the field in the middle of a game (even though I might make different choices as a parent). They have their kid on the team so they can learn good teamwork and sportsmanship, and are actively engaged in helping to teach that rather than putting it all on some other volunteer. The people I'm mad at are the parents who force their kid to go out there under the guise of having them learn teamwork, but will do absolutely nothing when their kid disrupts practice by deliberately booting balls of the field during a practice drill, or who will goof around on the field during a game not even trying to play but then make fun of their own goalie when they let in a shot that the goof-off kid on defense shouldn't have let become a shot in the first place. If that's what your kid is doing and you're not addressing it as a parent, you are implicitly telling your child that this kind of crappy behavior is acceptable, and that's bad parenting, Plus you're being a jerk to the other kids on the field who are actually trying but being affirmatively hampered by your child messing up their play. Everyone, your own child included, would be better off if you never signed up.[/quote]

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