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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm confused.  They're in the area, or they are flown in?[/quote]

Granparents (in laws) live 30 minutes from us (in DC area).  Siblings live out of state.  Grandparents get flown in to take care of siblings' kids out of state. [/quote]

So they fly them in every time they need a night out?  What?[/quote]

They fly in to take care of the grandkids for weeks at a time......[/quote]

This is an incredibly specific and unusual arrangement, OP.  On the one hand, I can understand your frustration that you really needed help and couldn't get family to watch your kids.  [b]But on the other hand, it's not like your in laws just said "nah, we're watching the other grandkids this week," there was a flight booked and likely other arrangements already in play.[/b]  The problem with emergencies is that they're not predictable; it was just bad luck that yours happened when the in laws were visiting their other grandkids.[/quote]
This.  It's not that the grandparents are just favoring one set of kids over the other--they are out of town.  And this is such a strange, unusual setup.

That said, the strange expectation that some people have that grandparents are obligated to provide childcare is it's own beast.  Yes, it's nice, and yes, my grandparents provided backup care (if I got sick and my mom couldn't stay home with me, a grandma would come, or when my mom was in the hospital, grandma watched up when dad was visiting), [b]but a lot of people seem to expect grandparents to be regular babysitters,[/b] and get pissy if they don't want to.  It's odd to me--they're not the hired help.  [/quote]

i have met very few such people and they are certainly not common on DCUM. OP's frustration is with an occasional emergency and the other family using ILs as their regular childcare.[/quote]

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