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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got married at 28.  My husband was 27.  We had no desire to have kids.  We were both a bit 'immature'.  We traveled constantly.  We went out all of the time---dinners, partying with friends.  We even took a sabbatical from our jobs to party for 6 months around Europe.  We ran marathons and entered other extreme races.

When I turned 34, we had bought our first house in the city.  I had this moment where I was just bored with life and I felt like there was no meaning in it.  I was always fearful about having kids.  I used to always say 'it's not like a puppy, where if you decide you don't want it you could just give it up for adoption'.  I also was very worried and anxious about having a child with special needs, etc.  I really spent a lot of time assessing what I really wanted out of life.  I also spent a lot of time with my young nephews.  My reasoning was always that you should not try to have kids unless you AND your spouse were 100% on board and committed.  I had an epiphany.

I did get pregnant on the first try both at 34 and again at 37.  It was the best thing I ever did.  My boys (now 10 and 12) have brought my husband and I...and grandparents and aunts/uncles so much joy.  It really changed my outlook on life.  I did not know it was possible to love somebody soooo much.  I regret a bit not having them a tiny bit earlier.  I recently lost [b]my dad and he was the BEST, absolutely best, grandfather in the whole world.  My nephews all made it past 18 years old with him in their lives and I'm sad my boys lost him at 10 and 12 because he was such a very, big part of their lives.  My husband always said what a great influence he was on them and a great sounding board other than mom and dad.  I am fortunate that they will have fond memories of him...but oh the regret they couldn't have a few more years:(.[/b]

OP, trust your guy.  Don't do it just to fulfill somebody else's expectations.  It has to come through you.[/quote]

Ugh, same situation here, I wish we all had more time with my dad, such a positive influence, great teacher, and super listener. They had me when he was 35 and then I had kids at age 34 and 36 so grandparent time gets compressed. [/quote]

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