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[quote=Anonymous]I agree with the "catch her being good" poster.  It helps to break the cycle of negative interactions, and it lets her know that you DO notice when she's helpful, kind, pleasant, etc., not just when she's not.  Just like finding activities that you can do together that are fun--baking cookies, watching a movie, etc.

Things my mother did that helped her survive my tweens--she was respectful to us, but she did not take crap.  She always made sure that I had what I needed, and she did not withhold affection, but was clear that she wasn't going to go out of her way to do nice things for people who were rude and unkind to her.  It wasn't a battle, she didn't make a big deal every time I was a little snot, she just demonstrated that she was not a doormat.  I think that not rising to the bait every time helps, too.  Sometimes the most effective response is to shrug, say "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "I can see you're upset, but it's not okay to talk to me like that.  Let me know when you've calmed down and we'll talk," or even just, "Uh-huh," and walk away.  [/quote]

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