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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone on this board recently posted, "women are the gatekeepers of sex; men are the gatekeepers of marriage".  Seems kinda true and sure, I think it leads to resentment on both sides.

Women are also the gatekeepers of child birth, which I think also leads to resentment and the urge to control women's reproduction.  Topic for another thread I know....

But yes, I think when one gender is perceived as having all the power in a particular, important area, it causes resentment.[/quote]

I think this is interesting and I agree about marriage and childbirth but sex is interesting. Women are the gatekeepers of consent but we go through our whole lives knowing that that is power only when everyone agrees on it.

I do not think men realize the underlying...fear seems like too strong of a word, but underlying vigilance that women go through life with in the context of sex. Everyone says we can say yes or no, but there is always a danger that the guy we're with won't care and will take sex regardless. So a cautious somewhat powerless gatekeeper. And that breeds a different kind of mutual resentment because good guys pay the price for the bad guys in our hesitation and caution. But good guys also recognize this dynamic and treat us with respect so we aren't afraid of them.

I think the thing that is so baffling about OP's question is that it is so completely dismissive of this reality. Women have an easier time picking up a schlub from a bar who is willing to have sex with them. They are also basically always at risk at that bar for some other darker schlub deciding that he doesn't care whether or not she wants it. So in exchange for this 'advantage' we are perpetually at risk. Not worth it IMO.[/quote]

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