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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Addiction is complex.  That doesn't mean things can't be done.

Tell your in-laws that if they take SIL in to their house, guard her while she does DIY detox (see Thomas Recipe to help) and drive her to daily NA, you will pay for monthly Vivitrol shots for a year or two, assuming she has no insurance.

At home detox for opioids is way better than medical detox because it is far more unpleasant, but not dangerous, and, thus, makes it way more likely she won't want to do it again.

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OP here. I’m not sure how much more clear I can make it in this thread that I am not advancing any sums for SIL’s drug issues, whether for rehab or to support her lifestyle. This woman is perfectly fine as she is. Rehab has a near 100% failure rate for people who are willing, much less people who just want to be left alone with their drugs. As I said upthread, I am not working this hard to line the pockets of lazy people.[/quote]

Actually, studies show that court ordered (read unwilling) rehab stays are as successful as willing rehab stays.  But rehabs don't have high success rates in general--maybe around 15% at best, lower for really hardened addicts.  Most of them are really pretty scammy.

That is why I suggested at home detox (free), NA (free), and Vivitrol, (not free but opioids have no effect when you are on it so pretty much stops the habit with a much better success rate than rehab.  If she has insurance, it will pay for the Vivitrol. If your in-laws stop paying for her apartment and make her live with them, they could well afford it if there is no insurance.

I hate to say this, but you sounded like a nicer person before this post, unless some of the let addicts die posts above were from you.  There is a difference between supporting an addict and enabling one.  It sounds like this is what your in-laws are doing.  Yet, despite the fact they are asking you for financial help, you seem not to have had a hard discussion about her addiction.

She is your brother's sister.  You might serve the relationship between your children and their grandparents better by trying to be part of the solution.  [/quote]

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