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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]there is nothing wrong with needing breaks, but the deceit is not cool.  I'm going on an optional trip tomorrow. Husband knows manager didn't hold a gun to my head but also that it's good for my career progression (in your case, your husband should know it's good for your sanity).  If you continue to lie, you risk the stress you have now at home getting worse. If you find a way to discuss it, you create an opportunity to come up with a way for you to decompress without sneaking around.

Are you allowed to take half or even full days for yourself during the weekend when you are in town?

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I'm the guy who takes his spouse to Vegas, Miami, and London on trips (above).  I very rarely get involved with my wife in the negotiation of how important a trip is.  I make a decision based on what we have going on at home, and how important it is for my job, then inform my spouse I need to travel.  If she indicates there is a schedule conflict, I will first look at the timing of the trip (shortening it, moving it up or back).  Only if there is a major issue will I ever not go on an optional trip, or say I really have to go if it is a mandatory trip.

Without getting into details, I support her career 10x over what she supports mine (location, childcare drop off and pick up), so I think it's important to prioritize my business travel and not treat every trip as a negotiation over whether I really have to go and whether it is ideal timing for her.  Let's face it, it's never ideal timing for your spouse to go to Dubai for a week when you have two small kids.  [/quote]

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