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[quote=BigD]I would consider yourself very fortunate to be with a woman that has been exposed to the horror of kids without having any. Perhaps you should listen to her experience. What is your desire to have kids based on? Seeing other people with kids? Family? Friends? Take care of a baby / 2 year old / 6 year old, for week and tell me if you still feel the same way.

Do yourself a favor and travel the world with her, enjoy your life and be grateful you have found a woman that isn't going to pressure you into having kids and ruin your life and marriage in the process.

The vast majority of women are socially and biologically brainwashed to want kids. Most men aren't from a biological standpoint, however socially we do get pressure but not in the same way or to the same extent. Most men that have kids bought into the notion of extending their bloodline or just simply do it to make their wives happy and it seems like something between the two of you that you can share etc etc..yada yada.

That, however, will all go out the window the second the kid is born, her body is a wreck and you now have a screaming baby (or more) to take care of. Having kids can be a rewarding experience but you will sacrifice your own life a great deal for them. Anyone that tells you it's worth it has kids and is unable to face the truth. It's not worth it and we're not exactly short on people on planet Earth. Everyone I know that has kids makes passive-aggressive remarks about my childless-by-choice friends while those friends tell stories of all the places they're going to visit this year, the parties they went to at the weekend and ...wait for it.... just leaving the house to go somewhere without a second thought.

What you're complaining about is something that 95% of men with kids wish they had and 80% of women with kids wish they were.

Just the cold truth is all...

Also consider this - what if you do decide to have a child and she get's pregnant and it's twins or more. This is very common these days especially if she needs fertility treatment. Are you going to abort one/two of them? Are you ready for 3 babies?

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