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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a high-earning, attractive, tall, fit, and active woman. [b]I used to think that men would be attracted to my personality and career prospects but they are not. They see the outer shell first[/b], so i make sure that it is the best that it can be.

[b]Its even more so important now as i age[/b] and [b]other women are heavier,  have poor attitudes, and low libidos.[/b] This sucks, i know but it is what attracts them.

I fought against this mentality for so long.  I even broke up with a few guys who have turned out to be high earners because of their "superficial" nature. Well, hell. [b]Here i am, 20 years later dating the same guys who are attracted to my outer shell.[/b]

Its up to me to weed through the fools. Dating is a serious activity and you need to put your best foot forward.[/quote]

If you've been dating for 20 years without finding a life partner then I'm not sure you're someone to take advice from. [/quote]

Yes, it is. And we don't all lead the same lives, you realize this, don't you? Death, divorce, being widowed, taking care of medically ill relatives can all be a part of our lives. I won't tell you the ones I have experienced but thanks for your snarky useless comments.[/quote]

I'm not sure I can cede you the moral high ground when you're talking about how all the women around you are fat sexless b's. There are guys out there who can see past the outer shell (and who can see and appreciate your outer shell of course). I hope you find one. [/quote]

Those are your misogynistic words. Own them and stop projecting. Low libido is not sexless, nor is it asexual. The same with being heavier, you are the nasty one on this thread.[/quote]

Yeah sure you're right. Your post telling people that at the end of the day men only care about your outside shell was totally great and super empowering for women. [/quote]
DP who thought PP's post was great. Why are you picking at it?[/quote]

Because I think

1) Women are more than their outer shell
2) Guys out there exist that think that
3) Women should support each other and not say that all the ones around them are heavier, have a worse attitude and a low libido

I am very happily married and have plenty of sex with my husband so I am not what PP describes and taking it personally. But I HATE when women talk down about other women in this way. It is so dismissive and mean.

And by her own admission she's been dating for 20 years and is still dating the same kind of guy. Maybe she married one of those guys and they died from  cancer and here she is dating the same kind of guy. That would be sad and I'd be sad for her of course. But she's still being unnecessarily cutting and focused on outside looks in her post .[/quote]

From your own admission, you are married. What would you know about dating and what attracts a man. You haven't done it in a while. Dating is different in your 20s, 30s and certainly so in your 40s/50s and beyond.  Women should not kid themselves into thinking that men are only attracted to what they cannot see. Keep believing it if you want, you are a married. It doesn't matter.[/quote]

I think I successfully completed dating. Or at least I was successful in the way that most people are shooting for when they date. I kind of get what you're saying but if you've been dating for 20 years and your goal was marriage and it never happened then you're doing something wrong and I wouldn't take advice from you. Just like I wouldn't take advice on academics from someone in their 9th year of high school.[/quote]

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