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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has been estranged from his three kids from his first marriage.  Ex wife did everything she could to make him the one and lied about so many things and the kids believed it.  [b]He does not care as its been so many years.  One started to reach out occasionally and he's friendly back but he'd be happier if they didn't contact him as its who knows what its really about and he's tired of it.[/b]  One other only calls for money and once we started saying no, they refused to talk to us, which is fine.  If you have a kid, living with your girlfriend who refuses to work and you are in school, you figure out how to provide.  We offered all our baby gear and clothing and they refused demanding new.  No biggie.[/quote]

I can see why his kids don't have a relationship with him. And it's not their mother's fault.[/quote]

Why is it always the man to blame?  She cheated, she told the kids he didn't pay child support and the extra's she demanded and that is why they went without when she refused to spend the money (and if we bought stuff for the kids and sent it, she threw it away), etc.  So, after being treated like crap by the kids and ex, what more should he do?  They only want his money and when they are adults, its time they support themselves (and if they want gifts/money, at least email a thank you when you receive it).  He's a great father and husband. If kids want money from Dad, since he pays life long alimony, get it from her.[/quote]

Why on earth does she get life long alimony? Is she disabled?

I'd go back to court to cut them all off, then move to a nice undisclosed location![/quote]

Military retirement pay - they were married 9 years, divorced by 30.  It makes no sense when she cheated, choose to leave and lifelong based off his retirement years when she did nothing for those remaining years but that is how the laws are.  Not much you can do about it and its not enough money worth fighting over.  She better hope she dies before him as that's her only income and her boyfriend of all these years refuses to marry her so she's going to be up a creek (he's military too so it would have made sense for the life long health care and his military pension).  His ex is oddly nice to us now and texts every so often.  [/quote]

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