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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband has been estranged from his three kids from his first marriage.  Ex wife did everything she could to make him the one and lied about so many things and the kids believed it.  He does not care as its been so many years.  [b]One started to reach out occasionally and he's friendly back but he'd be happier if they didn't contact him as its who knows what its really about and he's tired of it.  [/b]One other only calls for money and once we started saying no, they refused to talk to us, which is fine.  If you have a kid, living with your girlfriend who refuses to work and you are in school, you figure out how to provide.  We offered all our baby gear and clothing and they refused demanding new.  No biggie.[/quote]

I get what you're saying. They only contacted him for money or for "things" that could benefit them.  They are adult users. You and your husband know what they're really after. I have a wealthy sibling and now his 2 spoiled grown brats are now hoping he'll leave his money to them, LOL.  The funny thing is his wife is 14 years younger. I hope they don't get anything.

Make sure you guys have a solid trust![/quote]

Nope. One of his kids reached out and he wishes the kid would go away because “Who knows what it’s really about” — are you friggin kidding me? Why the heck are you assuming it’s about money? Another kid who did ask for money is apparently in grad school with a wife and child, per pp’s earlier post. I’d help but that’s not the point. So why not say “can’t spare any money now but let’s do coffee/dinner/Christmas”? Are there other kids, and why isn’t he reaching out to them? PP and her DH are appalling.[/quote]

They live cross-country.  One who reaches out sends random text and has no interest in seeing or talking to Dad.  Daughter hears grandma, whom she hasn't seen in 25 years is dying and pretends to be concerned.  If she were concerned, she'd come visit.  Ex cheated on my husband, took the kids cross country to live with her boyfriend and lied to them saying he was a deadbeat and she refused to follow the court ordered visitation.  Court would just tell her to send them with no consequences.  So, at some point, after so many years, and the kids just using him for money, when is enough enough.  We paid for plenty of unused plane tickets (once the youngest and the girlfriend came to visit but made it clear we would pay for his tickets in the future but hers was a one-time only and she got mad - she also cut off her parents after college when she had the baby as they refused to continue to fund her lifestyle when she refused to work/choose to have a child).[/quote]

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