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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I need different perspectives.

Been with my wife 13 years and we have 2 kids togetherHowever, I recently found out about her sexual past which we agreed to not really talk about but had details flushed out a bit clearer.  And it's disturbed me.  We have a decent sexual relationship in terms of frequency and action but not adventurous or particularly open.  She's a bit reserved and made me "wait" when we first met (I actually thought about leaving her initially because I questioned why she would purposely block intimacy without an explanation and made me question what might be wrong).  Most disturbing is that she had a one-night fling with a friend (despite her sexually reserved attitude with me when we first met) and other stories indicate a more free/adventurous sexual past.  I remember meeting her one night fling and am really annoyed having hung around him and her together without being the wiser.  It really bothers me...makes me feel kind of cucky/dopey/foolish?

Second to that, she seemed far more sexual with the men in her past.  I feel she lost her virginity a bit young IMO and her number was surprisingly high (if you were to guess based on her personality and lifestory, I don't think you'd get it right) and did some mildly slutty things when that the person I know really wouldn't do. [b] I was a late bloomer that had sex with 2 different women 4 times prior to her keeping in mind I met her at 22.[/b]  Nobody knows this and nobody would believe it given my personality and looks.  I'm kind of jealous and shocked of her past even though it would likely be pretty tame considering most of the stories I hear.

Thoughts?
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If this were not true you really would not care. If you want to appear to her like a complete and total chump, make a big deal out of her past. Otherwise, just get over it. She was sluttier in the past with others for the simple reason that "new" sex with people you don't intimately well is almost always more adventurous sex. Paradoxically, people are more inhibited in intimate relationships and also desire is just lower with familiarity. That's just life. [/quote]

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