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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]But forcing kids to not save seats or let anyone sit in a chair isn't going to help either. Yes, the kid can know sit there but the other kids will either move or talk around the kid as if they are not even there which is worse.

BTDT and having a kid with social issues is tough and as much as parents don't want to hear it - I know at first I didn't - it's not really an issue that the school can solve. It really takes the parents involvement. Lots of kids have social issues and have poor social skills in school. Worst advice is "ignore them" because it puts the child in a passive position of just waiting for something to happen to them to ignore it. Parents have to work with their child to develop friendships at school. It does involve setting up play dates, coaching your child before and sometimes during the play date and repeating. It's teaching the child some actual social skills and working on practicing them. Lastly, just sticking a kid in other activities may not produce any results. If the goal is socialization and friend making, parents have to look for an activity that their child can do reasonably well and does not have a closed group of kids already involved ex a team that had been together for 5 years.

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I’m dealing with this and I have an 8th grader.  She has attended social skills class, I’ve been very active setting up play dates in the past, we talk about different social situations and she is active in a few outside activities.  Even with all this, it’s tough.  This has not has solved her problems but I think it’s made things better than they would have been if we did nothing.

The other important things to remember is to make sure your child knows that you love them and they are enough as they are.  It’s very easy to get caught up in smoothing the quirks and rough edges and it can feel like you are always apologizing for them.  At some point, they will find the person/people that can appreciate them for who they are and you want to make sure they love themselves and they know how to be a friend when that time comes.  The school can’t make the other kids be friends with your kid but they can try to teach empathy and kindness and parents can help reinforce that with their children.[/quote]

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