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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find that people in general in the DC metro area - both men and women - are more open to having sex casually as (1.) we get older and (2.) post-divorce. Sex is no longer the "big special act" and we are accustomed to regular frequency.

That said, you can really only pull this off at your age if you're very attractive or just have the "je ne sais quoi" magnetic personality that drives men wild. I'd only agree to these terms if I was absolutely nuts about you.

If you're middling in the looks department and/or just a normal boring DC professional, good luck with your demands. But I think you'll find more men getting bored with you rather quickly without a physical element to the budding relationship.[/quote]

Op here. There is a physical element - basically everything but sex. I just want to know we are exclusive, and that the guy's profiles are down, and he isn't sleeping with anyone else, if we are dating and having sex. ANd that we aren't just seeing each other a few times a month and having sex but rather see each other more regularly. Basically, I want the guy I am having sex with to be and act like my boyfriend. Is that really asking too much? Which of those terms do you have issues with - do you want to be able to sleep with multiple people?[/quote]

Have you considered why you attach a premium to PIV sex that you don’t seem attach to, say, oral sex? It seems rather arbitrary that you’ll give a bj to every man you date, but then demand exclusivity for intercourse. You are essentially saying “I am sexually conservative and will only have intercourse in a committed relationship, but I’ll give a BJ to anyone who picks up the check”. Men that want the former may be turned off by the latter.

Which is not to say you should have sex you are uncomfortable having, but rather, maybe realize that “everything but” still includes some pretty intimate acts, and maybe pull back on on those acts until you get exclusivity.[/quote]

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