Reply to Newly single, military Mom, going to residency

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Newly single, military Mom, going to residency - child care options"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you to all who provided useful information that I requested! I’m grateful that my residency opportunity will not require overnights. My mentors have been incredible to work with. For my annual conferences that I’ll need to do or extended time away, my mom can help. Lastly, it’s no one’s business where the other parent is. That wasn’t what I asked about but thank you for the concern.l[/quote]

You go girl.  Good for you for not listening to the other naysaying PPs who say you can't do this without family.  Their lack of support hurts women just as much as sexism in the workplace.  They are the "home" version of the work colleague who won't give you a professional opportunity because they know you are a single mom and assume you couldn't possibly do X with a kid.  These mother-shamers have some arbitrary number of hours and schedule in their head which they believe all "good parents" must conform, and they assume you can't possibly conform to that.  Saying, "this is going to be harder than you think," and "you need another functional adult" (which by their definition has to be someone tied to you by blood or deep friendship), and "this seems impossible to manage to me..... with hired help"  -- none of these are helpful comments. They are examples of the kinds of thinking that have held women back for centuries.

We are better than this DCUM.[/quote]

You are not in touch with reality.  I went through military residency with my spouse and you have absolutely no clue what you are talking about.  My husband would go a couple weeks without even seeing the kids when they were young and went to bed early.  Can it be done? Yes, with a whole lot of childcare help. It is in no way going to be a good situation for the child involved. You just can't be two places in once, no matter how much "you go girl" is involved. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics