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So we're still missing why he's getting fired though. The bolded makes it seem like maybe he has no ability (or desire) to hold his tongue in situations which others would see as necessary to do so to remain professional. Like he thinks he knows more or is better than his employer. Obviously he can GET a job, so he's not a total idiot, but being fired multiple times is insane. In terms of your relationship,[b] this would be more of a deal breaker in my eyes in the sense that he has little to no self-awareness and tends to shirk responsibility for things that are obviously within his control[/b]. That's a massive problem if you want an equal partner and a healthy relationship in which you can each own your mistakes and compromise. [/quote]

Fired for cause, multiple times. He gets warnings and fails to shape up in response as far as I understand. I don't know about lack of respect for authority. He for sure lacks self awareness and insight into the problem, which I find mindboggling. He has NEVER tried to figure out why this continues to be a problem.

[quote]I had a husband like this once. He had a job when we were dating. He didn't last long as a husband. Now I have a husband who just retired from his career and already has another job. [b]I prefer men who aren't afraid to work, because I'm certainly not afraid to[/b].[/quote]

I am mildly successful, but this is where I'm stand. I can not respect a man who does not have a career as I have worked hard for my great job and stability.

[quote]I have a friend like that - she has ADHD and just doesn't really seem to know how to reliably show up for jobs like normal people. She's flaky in her personal life too - will commit to showing up somewhere at X time and then will got totally sidetracked doing 15 other completely unnecessary things, somehow thinking she has time to do everything, and then she's 3 hours late and angry that everyone else is going home. (because they've been out for 3 hours.)

Does he have ADHD? Unless he decides to medicate and it works, this may never get better.[/quote]

Yes, he does, currently unmedicated but just now got a prescription. He talks about this factor a lot as far as his jobs, but if he knows it is a problem, I don't understand why effort hasn't been made to address until now. It feels like a reaction to me being angry rather than a real effort to change.[/quote]

Omg, run. Do not marry this, medicated or not, therapy or not. He will drive you batshit crazy; he cannot handle LIFE. is not truly fixable. You will suffer constant setbacks, and the stakes will be higher- your kids, financed, your career, your health.[/quote]

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