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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wait until your daughter is 18 to remarry.  Her concerns are legitimate and real.  Until your daughter is 18, she needs to be your priority, not a man or his kids.  You are being very selfish by doing this for yourself and to her.  Listen to your daughter.[/quote]

No way. I think it's important for minor children to see loving  marriages and happy couples. [/quote]

The OP already showed her a bad example with her first husband.  She doesn't need another bad example with the second when it will undoubtedly cause the child stress and unhappiness.  The OP had her chance with hubby number 1, now it is her time to prioritize her daughter.[/quote]

So because my ex husband left me for his OP, [b]I’m not allowed to find love or get married[/b] until my daughter is 18? I guess I learned something new. What a terrible mother I am![/quote]

OP, I say this with utmost caring.

You aren't getting it!  This isn't about you and your needs, this is about what is best for your daughter. Yes, you got a raw deal when your ex had an affair and moved on. But guess what?  Your daughter got a worse deal!  She had divorced parents and had to split her time between two households. She can NEVER spend Christmas with both parents, or have both walk her down the aisle. She had to split her visits home when she visits.

Boo hoo for you, your daughter had it ten times worse!

She's worried about the changes and she's right, it will be harder for her.  If it is coming as such a shock to you that she's concerned then do her and you a favor and hold off until you have a better idea of how to manage this.

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My parents divorced when I was 10. I have always spent Christmas with both of them (and stepfamilies). My dad walked me down the aisle because traditionally, that’s what dads do in my religion.[/quote]

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