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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks everyone. The issue with me staying busy or leaving or being short, is she takes all of that as a personal slap in the face. Among her list of grievances was the time I took a phone call while we were visiting them even though she knew it was because I was waiting to see how my grandma was doing after a fall. She also says I don't talk enough even though I think I do. They often talk about people I don't know so yeah, not much to contribute. When I ask who these people are or something else she act annoyed that I don't know. I didn't grow up around where they are from do it's like wtf.

Ugh, anyway I don't hate her, I just hate that all the times she smiled at me she was secret taking note of things she hates about me. [/quote]

The only way to cope with this is to stop caring so much what she thinks.  If a woman is bothered by you keeping in touch with your own family during a medical issue she is NOT someone you can EVER please.  If you stop taking phone calls, if you talk just the right amount, there will ALWAYS be something.  The only way to save your sanity is to not care that she is talking shit about you.

It's hard.  It will mean you DH needs to do some tough work admitting how his mother is actually much more awful than either of you thought.  It will take time.

Good luck.[/quote]

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