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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again. 
I am not trying to 'better understand' my DH by asking if he is the only one doing this, but am genuinely interested if other men do the same. 
I have asked him "Why" when he says he doesn't want to and the answer is "i just don't want to". Again, not a big issue enough to make him come up with some reason. he may 'just not want to' and that is fine but i was wondering if this is typical 'guy' behavior or if it is just him.

I do visit his family, like i said around 4-5 times a year over long weekends and then some holidays. We visit my family 1-2 times per year and an occasionally holiday so it is not that he feels i don't visit his enough or not as much as mine. I visit mine occasionally 1 time a year without him if he travels for work, if there is a family emergency, my sisters baby shower, parents need help with something etc etc.

He refuses to visit his parents and not only during the times they ask for his help. Like i said, he will complain sometimes that I am working a weekend and 'he is bored' but then refuses to visit family.

Anyway, thanks for those who responded. [/quote]

Honestly Op, I don't think that most parents would expect their adult children to clear fields for them, shingle their roof for them or anything else quite that insanely labor intensive.  So a lot of woman on DCUM saying "Oh, my husband always visits his parents by himself" doesn't mean much.  Most of those guys probably go home to parents who take them out, cook their favorite meals, provide beer to drink with a crowd of (mostly) male siblings/friends/cousins and otherwise spoil them.  Of course they go home.  Duh.

However, if someone invited you over to dinner and handed you a "honey do" list the minute you walked through the door (mow their lawn, paint their spare bedroom, install smoke detectors, debug computer...) while they cooked....you might start finding reasons to avoid their invites, too.  My guess is, your husband insists on bringing you along because his parents would be embarrassed to ask you to climb up on their roof to shingle it.  They would treat you (and him by extension) as a good host treats their house guests....

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