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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think my kids are the only people I could love no matter what the circumstances, even if they did something totally abhorrent.

Now, I've never *not* loved my parents and my husband...but they've never done anything shitty. I think if they did (husband cheated, abused me/kids, etc.) I wouldn't love them anymore. Knock on wood that it'd never get to that point! [/quote]

Would you love your kids if they were physically abusive towards you?[/quote]

NP here. I will love my kids until the day I die. It does not matter what they do. I would want them to go to jail if they did something horrible, but I will visit them there no matter what they did.

However, I am a very logical person so I will not let my kids walk over me. But the love I have for them is like nothing I have ever felt. It is the most vulnerable thing in my life. I feel like my heart has been cut into pieces and several pieces have been lodged into my kids.

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NP here. I feel the same kind of soul-consuming love (as PP put it) for my husband.

I understand that is not your experience, but it definitely exists.

And yes, I have kids. [/quote]

NP. Serious question. Do you really not feel like there are things that your husband could do that would erode that love? That is the point a lot of us are making. A lot of people are saying, 'I love DH as much as I love my kids' but that really isn't the issue. The difference isn't in how much you love them today or tomorrow or how much you think you'll love them in 50 years. It is whether they could do something to make you not love them. There is NOTHING my kids could do that would make me not love them. I could end up disappointed in them, estranged from them, horrified by them, I can see all of these things. But even if my kid ended up being a school shooter or something just awful I wouldn't stop loving them. There's nothing they could do, that is unconditional.

IE I am saying that if I found out my kid was a serial rapist or something I would hope he went to jail but I would still love him. If I found out my husband was a serial rapist I would abandon him entirely and divorce him and while I'm sure it would be a long and difficult grieving process, I would not love him at the end of the day. [/quote]

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