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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up in a family that I thought was "good" and happy...until I had my own kids.  It didn't hit until elementary school age when I realized how little my parents did compared to how we take care of our kids -- and I'm not talking about changing standards of parenting, but real neglect.  I eventually did talk to my mother about my feelings about certain childhood experiences, but all she said was 'I guess we all have different perspectives'.  That really brought home to me some of her self-absorption issues and limitations, and made me see, eventually, that she probably was doing the best that she could manage.  This complete lack of recognition that what I was identifying was real oddly made me feel better.  OP, even if you think it will hurt your parents, it may be beneficial for you in the long run to express some of your feelings to them about how you grew up.  Whitewashing your "great family' to everyone, including yourself, may work for now but perhaps not in the future.  Good luck.  Definitely makes me feel better to see so many people posting who are working through similar issues to me (and you).  Hope your adoption quest is successful![/quote]

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