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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex-husband receives SSI, he’s a disabled vet with PTSD. He was not disabled while on active duty. His income is minimal and I would feel horrible taking him to court. He’s currently living at home with his parents, who also help out with childcare when my own mother is sick. If my ex is ever able to work again he will help me financially, he’s just not in a space to be able to do so now.

My brother really stepped up in the past, and I just wish he and my SIL would do so now. Our parents could use the support - financially and emotionally.

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It sounds like your brother has done a lot of stepping up in the past, the rest of you sound like a bit of a mess.

While it’s no one’s fault your mother got sick and I feel bad for your ex-husband and his PTSD, you cannot expect your brother to forever pick up the slack and support you all. You sound resentful that he and his wife have a better financial situation, but as you mentioned, he has helped out in the past, and it’s not his job to take on you and your parents’ problems as his own.

I also think he and SIL assume you help out your parents with grocery shopping and cleaning because they provide you with childcare for free, which seems like an equitable exchange, and does not involve either of them in any way. [/quote]

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