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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can't think of anything sadder than a parent of a bi-racial child encouraging the child to identify as white. Its pretty powerful proof of the enduring power of race in this country.

How desperate must you be to want to your child to pass for white by negating your existence?  Do you skip the white family's holidays? Are you going to pretend you're the nanny at your child's wedding? How much self-shame are you dumping on your child?

It's just absolutely pitiful, but you can't blame the non-white parent any more than you can blame African-Americans who chose to cross the color line by passing for white.  [/quote]

The kid is half white and half Asian.  Some of those forms force you to choose so having to choose doesn't imply shame.  It would be a lie too under your definition to check the Asian box.  Would that imply shame about the white side????  The whole thing is ridiculous that people are judged by the top layer of skin.  The above comment implies on it's own an assumption of hiding shame as an Asian.  Our kid had such a mixed background he threw his hands up and checked the Undeclared box.  That likely was worse then any of the other  :roll: choices [/quote]

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