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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your son has thought about it and given you solid reasons that he wants public. I would let him go. You can always switch it later.

My best friend insisted her son go to private when he wanted to go to public and it was a disaster. [/quote]

My folks wanted me to go to this private all girls high school where they all graduate in white gowns with long white sleeves and 2 dozen roses. I wanted to go to the public high school because I could biked there, I wanted to compete against the boys, and it was much bigger so I did not have to get caught up in cliques and could float around with some anonymity. I was in their IB program and went to Yale. It turned out that having a big drop out rate and other stats associated with an urban school was a factor that went in my favor for college selection criteria. I doubt it was that significant, but there is less of a crabs in a barrel mentality. It seemed like many of my roommates and friends who went to elite private schools also had their share of school issues from eating disorders, suicide, drugs and more money to protect them from the brunt of their mistakes. My younger sister did private school and loved it. Not the all girls one, but another. I think there is something to be said in letting teens have a stake in their future, take ownership of it, and excel in their choice rather than resent the parent when the parent's choice goes wrong. [/quote]

Correction I meant "if." And I doubt it could go wrong, but I know some adults who irrationally blame things on their parents. Like they breakup with a first love and they will say it would have never happened if they went into the other school. My brother does that and I have to keep re-directing him that challenges are everywhere and he needs to just work to make the best choice he can. I also like the ideas of the other commenters of widening the pie (more school choices and tours) before dividing it. It's a good business negotiation strategy. You are on the right track in really hearing out your child's wishes. [/quote]

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