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[quote=Anonymous]OP we are in a similar situation and hang in there, it usually gets better.

The constant looming medical stuff is a huge drag on teen boys who don't want therapy and just want to be left alone.

We have had to let grades slide and deal with the health stuff and a new ADHD diagnosis. If your DS is happy at school, do not change that.

What has worked for us: DH is now driving DS to an activity every weekend. That time is critical for casual talks. Your DH MUST step up and do at least 1 one-on-one activity with your DS weekly. He must make eye contact with him daily either in the AM or PM and give him 1 compliment or + reinforcement.

You can also have a sit down talk with your DS and let him know you're struggling and you believe he is mature and ready to take on more. If it's not the meds(which sounds too risky) figure out something he can take charge of. Bribe/reward for it. Sometimes teens forget our job as a parent is to make sure they are ready for adulthood and sometimes we forget to give them increasing responsibilities and freedoms as they get older. Send him up to visit older sibling at college or a relative etc. There are lots of ways to do this.

I would find out what about the meds make him not want to take them and work on that with dr. Our DS does well on his meds but only wants to take them for school so we do put up with some grumpiness on weekends.

Also, as others mentioned, don't forget to switch it up. The other night DS asked me what I was doing and I gave him some major attitude (in his style and with his language) and he totally cracked up and also got it finally that that is what he dishes out and it's not pretty.  It worked.

Also, I drive him to school so we have lots of great times for interesting and salient conversations. Timing is everything with those.

Finally focus on baby steps and give lots of positive reinforcement.[/quote]

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