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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I KNOW that most of PK "academics" is really just about developing social skills[/quote]

What do the teachers say? I'd think about talking to the teachers at her old school and getting their input. Sounds like she is not developing social skills since the peer group is not a good fit, for whatever reason. Have you talked with the current teachers about your concerns?

The school cut offs are fairly arbitrary. I wouldn't be so focused on academics at this age, I'd worry about school being her life/work/shaper of her personality for the next 13 years. If she seems uncharacteristically inhibited and quiet with this group of peers, well, that doesn't seem good.

Privates can be tough in that the classes are not that big and a few "big" personalities can dominate and skew the class older or younger  (esp if there are older sibs). The fact that she has older sibs and still seemed "young" to me suggests that she could thrive with a slightly younger peer group. Not sure how to make that happen OP, but I'd explore options. You want her to feel like she fits in not that she needs to hide that she doesn't. Doing well in school is great, but academics shouldn't be a refuge from not having friends. If she has one on one playdates this year, how do they go? How is it when she plays with friends from her old school? Being admitted is not the same thing as being in a situation that is a good fit.

Leaving her where she was and having everyone else move on wouldn't have been so great either, a friend did that and her kid ended up in therapy. If she is always trying to keep up with the twins maybe a school environment that is all her own might be better in that regard as well? I'd work with a consultant but also go on tours and try to find an environment that seems like a good fit, but it varies so much by the kids that are in the class itself.

My DC attends a DCPS and in K the kids are still very into Disney princesses, the alpha girls are the oldest in their families and have "younger' interests. We lucked out, but it's so hard to engineer it. Will there be a lot of mixing and new kids for K? If not, I'd really think about looking at other school options.[/quote]

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