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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met my gf through online dating. Before that, I went out on my first dates through apps. [b]Around 60% seemed like they weighed 10lbs more than their pics, and 30% much more than that. [/b]When I met someone in the former situation, I would be disappointed and in the latter situation, I would feel outright deceived. In all cases, I did the best I could to continue the date (and often still paid) but it was only rarely I overcame my original negative reaction. I am fairly into physical fitness (I used to be certified as a trainer) and spend a lot of my free time being active, so I may or not be representative of your dating pool, but I would appreciate a heads up If you thought your pics were misleading. Especially if there was a good reason, it would have helped me calibrate my expectations and original reaction.[/quote]

Really?!?  So 90% of the women you met online were larger than expected?  I thought people lying about their age was common but weight is not something you can hide meeting in person  :cry: [/quote]

No. The 60% was cumulative and included the 30%. But yes more than half were significantly heavier than their pics. I often was disappointed and started the date a bit upset. Who knows, maybe it would affect other guys less. [/quote]

That's been my experience as well.  I hated screening them out on an actual date so I shifted the burden to the potential date before meeting and had much better luck.  I asked for selfies, taken right now and sent mine also.  Any woman who had trouble taking a photo, or showing a full body, I rejected.  I knew with 100% certainty she was going to be significantly larger than advertised.  It brought that percentage way down. [/quote]

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