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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, yes the Will divides the house equally to the 4 kids. This older brother has plenty of money to buy his own home although he'd never want to actually buy this family home. To big and probably to expensive for him.

Although he lives with my dad still, he's far from a care giver. If anything he does little to help. I do more and I live miles away. I don't think my 3 other siblings we be money hungry but I think there's a certain amount of frustration that this brother has been living almost scott free in this house for 55 years while the rest of us pay mortgages and property taxes like most adults.

I'm guessing the others will want him out fairly soon after my dads passing. There's a ton of work and cleanup to get the house ready to sell and of course it all falls on me to take care of. At this point I'm thinking of giving him 3 months to move out. [b]As for talking to him about future plans, that makes sense but I know it won't go over well.[/quote][/b]

That's why you need to do it. ASAP. Embrace the awkwardness. "Low inertia people" (how DH and I put it kindly with a certain family member of mine) do not like change. No matter what he can/can't afford, he'd love to continue living there, without his life changing, or he would have moved 35 years ago. He's made living there a passive daily choice for all this time. I think he needs a little timeline and emotional/processing support to get through this. I also agree w a previous poster who suggested checking out if there is anything mentally/cognitively wrong with him.

FWIW we attempted to talk to my family member about cognitive testing to see whaddup with the lack of inertia on multiple issues (career/light hoarding/lack of any financial awareness/planning/independence and  they took it calmly, nodded and said 'makes sense. I can see why you would say that' diplomatically, then never followed up. A kind, very well educated person-not someone we can commit to a home or penitentiary so the other siblings and I just steamroll decisions and don't involve them because they are incapable of relevant/helpful/real world actions/choices. Honestly they are fine with this as long as they aren't the one that needs to make decisions.[/quote]

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