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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Too vague. Too many people crying "wolf."

Tighten up the definition and push back against people who use the term frivolously, and we'll have a better chance at identifying and stopping the serious abusers. [/quote]

Oh, FFS, the problem is that people don't want to hear details, and the victim usually doesn't want to go over bit by bit how someone humiliated them or treated them in a dehuminizing way.   And if they say in great detail what happened, people still don't believe them.  It happens with adults who try to tell people a parent was emotionally abusive.  No one believes them.  And then even if you give sordid details, people don't really want to talk to you.

People don't even take physical abuse seriously.  No one would've believed Porter's wife if she didn't have a photo of her black eye.  And even then, some people still don't believe her.  And that's even with the other ex-wife having a restraining order against him.

People don't believe victims.  Even with the #metoo movement, it takes a lot for people to be believed.  And beyond that, no one still really wants to do anything about it or talk about why all of this stuff happens.

No one wants to look at our value system or our power structure or even our workplaces (what behavior is rewarded v. what is punished).   Bullies are promoted all of the time.  Why?  Because we reward that behavior -- the person who demeans others in order to have dominance.  We reward it in women too, because it isn't just men who are abusive.

And we were all shocked -- shocked!  -- that Trump won.  He's the epitome of what is wrong with our society and his rise to the highest office in this country exemplifies how we over and over and over again reward horrible behavior and elevate bullies.

It's so frustrating.  SO FRUSTRATING.

I'm sorry, OP.  I'm sorry you were emotionally abused.  And more than that, I'm sorry that no one is there for you to help you heal.  Because that is the thing about emotional abuse: there are deep emotional scars that remain even when you've freed yourself from the abuser.  It damages your psyche, your sense of self-worth.  And it's really hard to rebuild that when you feel alone and invisible and, perhaps worst of all, just completely unloved.

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+1000, very well stated! A symptom of how sick our society is[/quote]

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